Breaking up: Is it really over?

Whether you’re separating or divorcing, we know the end of a long-term relationship can be hard, both emotionally and financially.

Good friends – and good legal support – are invaluable in helping you to negotiate the process as smoothly as possible.

Whether you’re an IET member or your partner’s a member – we offer a wide range of help and support that can come in handy as you start to negotiate the legalities of your separation.

Introducing the IET Connect mediation grant 

IET Connect’s mediation grant has been introduced to help take some of the pressures off you and your partner as you work towards either a separation agreement or apply for divorce. The grant is available both for IET members and their partners, and either one of you can contact us for more information and next steps. 

How does mediation work?

Divorce mediation can help you to sort out family disputes without going through the courts. It’s a useful way to sort out arrangements for your children and your finances.

The mediation process can also help you avoid the stress of working with divorce lawyers or family solicitors in the effort to finalise your separation agreement or organise your divorce settlements. 

It’s less formal, with a trained mediator listening to you and your ex-partner as you explain your concerns and views to each other. Its aim is to help you both to reach an agreement.

How separation can impact your life

We know that both divorce and separation can have a wide-ranging impact on your everyday life. Opinions, advice, support and questions can come at you from friends, family members, colleagues and acquaintances. It can be a bewildering time. 

And, as you begin to navigate your new beginnings, you may find you have many questions that you need the answers to. Questions like, ‘What will happen to the children?’, ‘Where will I live?’, ‘What am I entitled to?’ and ‘How to file for divorce?’

It can all feel rather unnerving. 

Finding answers can often mean seeking support from professionals. People like family solicitors who are experienced in legal separation or divorce mediation.  

Legal advice, in confidence, in support

Whether you need to know about separation agreements or divorce settlements, IET Connect can help you – and your partner – access professional help from our wide range of trusted legal advisers.

All our advisers are specialists in particular areas of the law and they’ll explain your legal position, tell you what your options are, and give you the legal information you need to take your next steps with confidence. There is legal support with:

o   Family law (divorce, separation, custody etc.)

o   Employment law

o   Debt

o   Power of attorney

o   Tax law

o   Wills, probate and inheritance

o   Property, landlord and tenant law

Get in touch to find out what legal advice is available that could help you.

Money, mortgages, maintenance and more 

When it comes to the financial implications of ending a long-term relationship, there are many things to consider, like ‘how much is a divorce?’. As big changes take place within your relationship, you might need to start looking at some options for moving on – starting with one of you moving out.

The Money Advice Service has a helpful guide to the question, How is a house divided in a divorce?’ You might decide to:

  • Sell the home and both of you move out. You could use the money you’ve raised to put towards another home for each of you, if you can afford it.
  • Arrange for one of you to buy the other out.
  • Keep the home and not change who owns it. One partner could continue to live in it, perhaps until your children are 18 or leave school.
  • Transfer part of the value of the property from one partner to the other as part of the financial settlement. The partner who gave up a share of their ownership rights would keep a stake or ‘interest’ in the home. This means that when it is sold he or she will receive a percentage of its value.”

We also provide confidential financial and housing support that can help you decide what’s best for you and your soon-to-be-ex-partner. And, if it’s helpful, we can also help you tackle the potentially thorny issue of debt – whether it’s yours or you’re jointly responsible. 

A safe place to talk, a quiet place to be with IET Connect 

The emotional implications of a separation or divorce can be far-reaching. Especially if children are involved. When it comes to money and child maintenance, Relate says: “Your separation may not go as smoothly as either you or your ex had planned, expected or wished. Money matters in particular are often an area of dispute. Lack of agreement over the financial details can draw out the separation process and add to your emotional strains.”

We’re here to help. We can provide both access to counselling and signposting for extra support from other organisations we know can support you. From the practical things like help with child maintenance contact and benefits advice, to ways to look after your mental health and wellbeing. 

Accessing our mediation grant is a helpful first step in starting to resolve the situation you’re in as you and your partner separate. 

Get in touch - we’re here to help you through this.


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