In it together: family support

Life has its ups and downs, doesn’t it? There are good times, and there are bad. But what do you do if the bad times feel like they’re taking over – and life feels hard to manage?

Modern life is filled with stresses and pressures. Perhaps work isn’t going well, money might be particularly tight, your parents may need more attention, your kids might be acting up – or maybe your relationship feels like it could be in trouble?

It's at times like this – when things feel heavy – that family therapy can be helpful for both adults and children. Counselling can stop situations escalating and try to help you as a family to talk and find a compromise around difficult issues.

What is family therapy?

The Association for Family Therapy and Systemic Practice offers this description of family therapy. “It enables family members, couples and others who care about each other to express and explore difficult thoughts and emotions safely, to understand each other’s experiences and views, appreciate each other’s needs, build on strengths and make useful changes in their relationships andtheir lives. Individuals can find Family Therapy helpful, as an opportunity to reflect on important relationships and find ways forward.”

What other emotional support is available?

If you don’t feel that family therapy is right for you, we can also help you to access a wide range of different counselling services. You can choose your own therapist and research what type of therapy might work best for you.

There are many different types of talking therapies, but they all aim to:

  • give you a safe time and place to talk to someone who won't judge you
  • help you make sense of things and understand yourself better
  • help you resolve complicated feelings, or find ways to live with them
  • help you recognise unhelpful patterns in the way you think or act and find ways to change them (if you want to).

There’s all sorts of practical ways to help you start to take the weight off, whether you’re ready to talk to a trained professional about your thoughts, feelings and behaviour, to try relationship counselling, family therapy – or you just want someone to help you start to see a way to get through the days and weeks ahead.

‘Let’s sort this out’ kind of support

We provide a range of different help and support, and take a holistic approach, both to you as a person in distress – and to your family as a unit.

So, while our grants can help to ease some of the pressure by helping you into counselling and family therapy, you and your partner can also access:

Financial support Every year we provide hundreds of grants to IET members and their immediate families to help make their lives easier.  If you’re struggling with day-to-day costs, perhaps due to a relationship breakdown, loss or change of income, bereavement, ill-health, disability or unemployment, we may be able to help.

Legal advice We know that it can be difficult to know what your rights are, particularly if you’re going through a hard time. Our free legal advice service is designed to help you navigate the legal maze.

Housing support We understand that housing problems can happen to anyone and that specialist advice can be of significant benefit in understanding the often complex issues around housing.

We’re here to help take some of the pressure off – and help you get back on your feet. To find out more about the support that’s on offer, visit

What to do if your relationship is over?

If your therapy leads you and your partner towards a separation, rather than a reconciliation, counselling services can also provide support for you as you navigate the world as a newly-single person. Talking therapies can provide a safe place to reflect while you wait for your divorce settlement and start the process of moving on after divorce. They can also help you to find your feet as a single parent and signpost you to things like help with benefits, help with childcare costs or support groups of people who are in a similar situation.

Accessing emotional, financial, legal, or housing support and starting to unravel a difficult situation with our support can help make your life feel less overwhelming and more manageable.

As you start to look towards the future, parents and children alike can still find family therapy helpful, as an opportunity to reflect on important relationships and find ways forward.

Our team is experienced, discreet and professional – and will know where to find the right kind of help to meet your situation. Visit, and we’ll do the rest.


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